Reflecting on “a life of violence”, I had no idea that this issue would be such a key thread, provocation and problematic in most of my academic life, albeit in many different ways. Much, though not all, of this work has been within academic framework of Critical Studies on Men and Masculinities (CSMM), as a sub-field within Gender Studies, alongside policy development and profeminist activism. Indeed, I came to realise fairly early on if one is interested in studying, and changing, men and masculinities, whether in research, politics or everyday practice, it is really very difficult to do this without giving attention to violence and anti-violence. In this chapter, I suggest, as invited by the editors, some theoretical/political/policy/reflexive personal accountings of these various engagements with men, masculinities and violences, especially in terms of bringing together CSMM, Violence Studies, Sexuality Studies, Organization Studies, Social Policy, and Sociology, along with my place and positioning, some contributions, and some difficulties. This theoretical/political/policy/reflexive personal positioning reflects a broader ontoepistemological question: the relation of the personal is political is theoretical is work.